Back in the day Carol King wrote a song called tapestry. As I Listened to this song I thought about all the couples who have come across my path and the stories and people that create their lives. These people are all part of the Tapestry of my life as well.
Every couple has a multitude of people who come into their lives and help make up the fabric of their individual story.I always find it interesting to learn how they met, how long they have been together,if there are children, maybe they knew each other previously and just found each other again...etc. If they are brides who plan things out over the long term I usually feel pretty comfortable with what their tapestry looks like when it comes time to say "IDo". I enjoy the little touches each one may want to include in their ceremony and the laughter or tear it brings when we tie it into the ceremony.
This is especially true when we are remembering a loved one who cannot join us on the wedding day. I have done many ceremonies to honor a loved one and I always encourage it. These don't have to be somber occasions but are meant to serve as a kind of tribute and to make the day complete. I find that it usually means a lot to the guests as well.
So when you are planning your ceremony give it the same attention as everything else, add your unique touches, make it you! Don't be afraid to ask for something after all it is your tapestry.
"My life has been a tapestry of rich and royal hue
An everlasting vision of the ever-changing view
A wondrous, woven magic in bits of blue and gold
A tapestry to feel and see, impossible to hold"